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Out-of-work job applicants told unemployed need not apply - Yahoo! Finance

2010-06-19T11:30:00.000-04:00

This is such a shame that I can't even get into it. Read it for yourselves and share your views...

Out-of-work job applicants told unemployed need not apply - Yahoo! Finance

What's REALLY Going On???

2010-06-16T16:39:00.003-04:00

I have been contemplating for some time about writing a post on this topic. However I was out the other day people watching and decided I had to speak on this. Now I know I’m probably preaching to the choir about a topic many have already touched upon, but I just CANNOT RESIST.

Can someone tell me what in the world is going on with the youth of today??? These young men running around with their pants hanging off like it’s some sort of badge of coolness or something. Now don’t get it twisted… It’s not only the African American boys doing this now a days. I’ve seen this craziness going on in all the races. Another problem I’ve noticed is them being disrespectful to themselves and all around them, even their own mothers and grandmothers at times. Just the other week a young man was outside of where I live cussing his mother out. The situation was such a mess that the police had to get involved. Then a few days later his grandmother was outside talking on the phone telling someone this child had gotten upset with her and said “ shut up you black b*@#*!!!” REALLY?!?!? What’s going on? What has transpired to cause these children to be so out of control?

My boys think I’m mean and too strict on them. I don’t allow the saggy pants, I make them use the manners they’ve been taught, and I have very high expectations of them. They see their friends out in the street at all times of the night doing God knows what, but I’m not having that mess. If my caring about their wellbeing and trying my best to be a good mother is mean and strict, then so be it.

As most of you whom have taken the time to read the sidebar should know, I am a mom to all boys. I truly believe God did this purposely as he knew my being a mom to girls would have driven me insane. It’s not only some of our male youth that’s out of control; our young ladies are sometimes just as bad. I saw two young girls the other night, they looked to be under eighteen; dressed like a bunch of street walkers (and that’s putting it nicely). Who told these girls that having everything hanging out and exposed was ladylike or sexy? Better yet, at their age why are they even trying to be sexy? I wanted to pull them to the side and tell them that they were really sending the wrong message with the way they were acting and dressing. I wondered where their parents…I wondered what was lacking in their lives that made them think that was the only way to get the attention that they obviously longed for. Seeing those girls both angered me and saddened me all at the same time.

Moms we must be there for our children to lead them in the right direction. There are apparently many young people out there who don’t have the guidance they need. Now whether we want to accept it or not, these same misguided youths have contact and sometimes even influence over our own children. We cannot be with our children ever minute of the day. Our children go to school, out to play/hang-out with friends, and older children may go to parties and so on and so forth. Let’s do our jobs as good moms and arm our children with the information, knowledge, and support they need to make good decisions about their lives and the sometimes rocky roads they will travel. All we can to is our part to guide our children. Hoping all the while that some, if not all of what we teach them will stick in their minds. Then, when that next conversation/discussion about disrespectful and seemingly lost youth comes up, they won’t be the topic.

Beautiful Blogger Award.... YEAH!!!

2010-06-11T15:48:00.001-04:00

I received this BEAUTIFUL BLOGGER AWARD from E.L.M. Dyck. I am very honored and happy about this. It only takes a second to brighten someones day....

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

Facebook Group : Single Mothers Raising Boys Discussion Group

2010-06-02T22:34:00.001-04:00

I ran across a wonderful group for us moms of sons on Facebook. I thought I'd blog about the group because it was nice of someone to create such a group. Any mom with a son will tell you, it isn't an easy task AT ALL. We don't get to experience the cute little dainty girls, who hate to get dirty and just love to have girl time and enjoy shopping just as much as we do. Instead we get, well in my case... a house full of boys that want to wrestle, fight, use each other for guinea pigs, and think that any and everything dirtier is indeed much better than anything clean. (SMILE)

It's always a pleasure to talk to other moms with sons. When I tell my stories of "adventure" they can actually relate to the madness of my world. Does anyone else feel the same?

That being said, if your are a mom to a son, check out this group. There's nothing like connecting with others who have something in common with you.

Facebook Single Mothers Raising Boys Discussion Group

Happy Mother's Day!!!

2010-05-09T20:07:00.000-04:00

To all you Special Moms out there…. I hope you all had a Wonderful & Relaxing Mother’s Day which was full of Love and Happiness. Until next time…

Peace and Blessings to you all…

An Educational Journey...

2010-05-08T16:13:00.001-04:00

Well Moms… I’ve decided after being out of work since 2008 and no job in site, that it would be an excellent idea to go back to school. I’m not just going back for any ole thing to get by. I’M HEADED TOWARDS A CAREER!!! Something that I’ve always had a passion for but never felt I had the time to pursue. Yes I’m jumping on the Healthcare Wagon. I’ve always been intrigued by real life medical shows as well as the ones with the cool story lines.

I’m starting off with becoming a Patient Care Technician, but ultimately I’m like to journey all the way up to becoming an RN (scrub nurse to be exact) However I figured starting with a career as a PCT would be a good way to get started in the healthcare field and work my way up to my goal.

I’ve just started and thus far I am LOVING IT!!! The information which I am learning is so interesting, and my instructor is AWSOME. She is really down to earth and put things in a way that we newbies can understand. She also makes class fun and never boring.

I was asked by a friend if I was going to blog about my new educational adventure. At the present time I’m not too sure if I’m going to create a new blog or just post snippets here and there on this one. I’m still trying to figure that out. In a way I think it may be a good idea since this blog is about the journeys of single moms and my choice to better myself and get a new career is indeed a journey in itself right??? Maybe from time to time I’ll throw an update in.

Lastly, please keep those follower topics coming. I have been a little behind since school has started but I promise to get all of the topics sent in to me covered. Thanks for the support and also thanks to all those who leave comments on the follower topics as you don’t know how valuable those comments are to the mom that needs them. I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU ALL!!!

Dating 101: How to Tell If Your Guy Is Lying -- Yahoo! Personals

2010-05-07T12:57:00.001-04:00

OK this is an article I ran across today and I thought it had some pretty good tips in it. Even though I don't always do it myself, I'm a firm believer of following your "first mind" or "gut" so to speak.

Some of the tale tell signs that this guy, (an ex-CIA polygraph examiner) fills us in on are enough to at least make you say "Hmmm..."

Have you fallen for any of those little white lies? Take a look and see... You'd be surprised...

Dating 101: How to Tell If Your Guy Is Lying -- Yahoo! Personals

Single mom - AskMen.com

2010-04-27T10:11:00.001-04:00

Please take a moment and click the link to read this article (written by a man) about dating a single mom. The guy has really done his homework and has made some VERY GOOD points. I for one am very impressed with his views. Maybe all hope isn’t lost after all.

He is basically letting men in the “dating game” know that we as single moms have No Time for Games, and if that’s what the dude is bringing to the table, he can just keep it movin…

I couldn’t have said it better myself!!!

Single mom - AskMen.com

Attention Seekers...

2010-04-26T00:21:00.003-04:00

As you all know, over the past couple of days “Journeys” has been transitioning from a free domain to a custom domain. Well I took that time to browse around the net to the different online communities and boards to see what everyone was up to. While stopping here and stopping there I ran across a discussion forum with a very interesting topic to say the least.

The topic (which was started by a male) was in regards to single women and court ordered child support. This guy said he didn’t feel unmarried women should be entitled to child support payments for their children. He feels that if women did the right thing and got married first they wouldn’t have to run down to the courts begging for money. WOW!!! Although it takes two people to produce a life, this guy thinks if the father wants to “walk away” he should be able to do so with no questions asked. C’mon, really??? I thought that was the most ridiculous thing I had ever heard in all my 35 years. The crazy part was there were a few others that actually agreed with him. Now, I don’t know if it was just a ploy to keep the thread juicy or what… But this guy should have been ashamed of himself.

I was going to link to the forum where this appalling discussion took place but I decided against it. I personally don’t think he or his thread deserves anymore energy. The more people responded in outrage to his comments the bolder he’d become. He was rude, disrespectful, arrogant and everything else in between. When I really think about it, it was pretty sad. This guy was obviously in serious need of some attention. Such a shame he had to go to such lengths to get it.

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Transition Period...

2010-04-19T09:37:00.001-04:00

Hello all…

To those who have stopped by and would like to “FOLLOW “Journeys of a Single Mom, please do so by clicking the “Follow” option at the top of the page. My blog is in a transition stage as I have now purchased a private domain name of my own… YAY!!! Until all of the technical work is complete you will more than likely need to follow via the option at the top. I’m hoping to have everything back to normal within the next couple of days.

Sorry for the inconvenience…

Thanks for your support and for stopping by…

And please have a Wonderful Day…

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Help with Healthcare Cost…

2010-04-18T20:57:00.005-04:00

This isn’t the best of times for many of us these days. So many people are out of work, or just barely hanging on to the jobs that they do have. Praying for dear life that the next round of layoffs with pass them by yet again.

For the rest of us that weren’t so lucky when the ax fell, keep your heads up. It may not seem like it but things will get better for us eventually. I know some of you may be wondering how and when because it seems like things have just hit rock bottom, but don’t give up faith. You will make it!!!

I have been at the mercy of this horrible economy for some time now. I have three children, been out of work since 2008, and to top it all off I’m an Asthmatic. The crazy thing is my asthma seemed to get a whole lot worse once I no longer had insurance. I don’t know if it is due to my increase stress levels or what, but I do know something had got to give.

I had been seeing different commercials on TV in regards to the many asthma meds on the market and the one I take was in heavy rotation. The commercial said that if a patient had problems paying for the meds they (the pharmaceutical) company might be able to help. At first I wasn’t too interested because I still had a good amount left and I just knew for sure I could pay for it if I needed more. NOT!!! I went to the ER due to an asthma attack and was given a few prescriptions to fill. Well I was lucky that 3 of them were on the stores discount $4 plan, but one I so desperately needed (from the commercial) was not. That prescription was a whopping $300 for not even a 30 day supply. WHAAAAAAAAAAAT!!! Of course I couldn’t get it, and of course I went right home and called the number from the commercial as soon as I saw it again.

The process for getting help was very simple. All I had to do was call the company and request an application for their medication assistance program. Once I received the application I filled it out and sent it back with the required documentation (proof of income, residence, and valid prescription w/refills if any). If everything goes well and you do qualify, the company will send you your meds free of charge. I was very lucky to have been accepted into the program. I had the prescription from the ER as well as a prescription from my doctor with 11 refills. Let’s just do the math on that… Hmmmm, that comes to around $3900, not including tax I might add.

I said all that to say this… if you need help and there is an avenue for you to get it, go for it. No one is going to think any less of you, and no one is going to judge you. So many times we allow our pride to get in the way of what needs to get done. I have always worked and have never been one for handouts. I’ve paid taxes just like the next person. So, why not take advantage of some of the money which I’ve been putting in the pot for all these years?

Just a lil food for thought…

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Meeting His Mom…(Follower Topic)

2010-04-15T10:50:00.004-04:00

This is a Follower Topic. Meaning: This topic was REQUESTED by someone that follows this blog. Follower topics are VERY IMPORTANT as a fellow Mom needs our advice. Responses are strongly encouraged as this Mom will be watching out for all of our responses in hopes for some good tips or a possible solution. Lastly, if you have a topic you’d like covered, don’t hesitate to email me. Now, on with our topic…

When you’re dating a guy and he tells you he wants you to meet his mom, it’s normally a huge deal. Let’s face it; one thing every female learns growing up is that men WILL NOT take “just anyone” Home to meet Mama. So once meeting Mom is suggested it kind of puts our mind at ease because we feel he takes the relationship seriously and is serious about us. But what if he never brings it up?

For instance… Let’s say you’ve been dating a guy for quite some time (2 years) and you still have yet to meet Mom. But not only have you not met mom, he also has children and you haven’t met them either. You question him about meeting Mom, and he always comes up with some sort of excuse or says “he’s working on it”. When it comes to the children he says he wants you to meet then but he just doesn’t feel they are “ready yet”. All this bothers you because he has met and spends time with your children as well as other members of your family. Come to think of it, he has also met most of your closest friends. While all along you’ve barely met anyone in his life.

So my questions are… What should this mom do? How would you handle this situation? Would you even want to continue the relationship? Would you give him an ultimatum?

Let me know what you think about this…

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Home Away From Home… (Follower Topic)

2010-04-13T23:47:00.008-04:00

This is a Follower Topic. Meaning: This topic was REQUESTED by someone that follows this blog. Follower topics are VERY IMPORTANT as a fellow Mom needs our advice. Responses are strongly encouraged as this Mom will be watching out for all of our responses in hopes for some good tips or a possible solution. Lastly, if you have a topic you’d like covered, don’t hesitate to email me. Now, on with our topic…

In the perfect world everyone grows up, gets married, have children and lives happily ever after. Unfortunately the world isn’t perfect and that’s not how things always turn out. Well at least I know it didn’t for me as well as many other moms out there.

As painful as it may be, and no matter how much we may not like the father of our child/children, most times he is allowed to be a part of our child/children’s life. However, when the time comes for them to go visit with “Daddy” we muster up a smile, let them go, then wait with baited breath for them to return. But what do you do if your child comes home and tells you something about their visit that’s bothering them?

For instance… Little Jamie goes to see daddy every other weekend and has been doing so for quite some time. She loves to see him, her other siblings and her stepmom too (even though she isn’t as cool as you ;-) everyone is really nice to her and they have lots of fun. The only thing that bothers Jamie is she has to sleep on the floor and not in a bed like here other siblings. She has her own room at Daddy’s house but since she doesn’t live there full time they use her room to for a junk/storage room and its way too messy for her to go in there, let alone sleep in there.

Moms… My question to you is this: How would you address this situation with the dad if this were your child? Better yet... How would you address the situation WITHOUT it turning into a huge argument? Don’t get me wrong, I know times are hard and we’re in a recession. But I don’t think an air mattress would be too much to ask for until they could get the clutter cleaned out of the bedroom. What do you think?

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

The New Man & Our Children (Dealing with discipline)

2010-04-11T13:37:00.007-04:00

Do we allow it at all? If we do, how far is too far? What if he gets upset if we say he can’t?

I think those are all questions which run across a single moms mind at some point when she enters into a new relationship. Let’s face it; it’s not just us the man is dealing with. In most cases, whether he knows it or not he’s signing up for a package deal.

The million dollar question is… How far are we willing to let these new men go when it comes to disciplining our children? Some women will allow their new man to jump right into the “daddy” role from the very beginning. They have no limits as to how he disciplines their children. Personally I don’t agree with that approach. I don’t think some guy that I barely know should be allowed to yell at, spank, or punish my children. That type of thing just doesn’t fly with me. Now don’t get me wrong… I’m not saying if a child is endangering him/herself that the guy should turn a blind eye and not say a word. I’d hope any adult would step in to stop a child from putting themselves in harm’s way. That’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about a man thinking he can just come into our lives and strong arm our children and us as moms allowing it to happen. To me that’s just unacceptable.

When we enter into new relationships we don’t always know how long it will last. Just that fact alone tells us that we really shouldn’t be introducing our children to any “prospects” right off the bat anyway. But some women do and I have yet to understand why. Let’s say you meet a man and allow him to play “daddy” no holds barred and then 3 to 6 months down the line he’s gone because things didn’t work out. Then along comes the next guy and you do the same thing. What kind of message is that sending to our children?

All I’m saying is that we should be careful and mindful of what we allow when it comes to us and relationships. We must remember our children are affected by our every action and how they view us as parents and life in general will be determined by what they experienced growing up.

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Work In Progress...

2010-04-10T12:06:00.000-04:00

Hey Everyone,

First I’d like to say Thanks to all the people over at BlogCatalog for stopping through to take a peak. Also thanks for the KUDOS post on my page over there. As fellow bloggers we must support one another and I appreciate those whom have supported me thus far.

OK now onto today’s post. I wanted to jump on here to let you guys know I HAVE NOT neither forgotten nor given up on this. I have been doing some thinking in regards to more topics to cover. One of my followers has already given me a very good topic which I will be covering sometime in the near future. However I’d really appreciate some feedback from more of you.

That being said, EMAIL ME!!! Let me know what’s on your minds, and don’t forget to spread the word about my blog.

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Let's Try This Again...

2010-04-07T10:48:00.003-04:00

Hello All,

I’ve been gone for quite some time and I’ve decided to try my hand at this again. I’d like to do things a little differently this time around. Instead of this blog being solely about me, I’d like to include you moms out in blog-land as well. I’d like you moms to email topics which you’d like me to touch upon. Maybe there is a topic on your mind that you don’t feel comfortable speaking to your friends and family about. Send me an email and I’ll cover the topic here. Also be sure to follow this blog as well. I have no problem tackling touchy subjects; however I will only do so for those whom actually follow my blog. Don’t worry, I WILL NEVER disclose which follower sent the topics I cover. Now if you decide to reveal yourself, that’s totally up to you.

So… Tell your friends about this blog and have them tell someone and so on. You get it right? It would be nice to get a dialogue or even a debate going from time to time. I’m sure this process may not take off over night, but I’m hoping in time we can have a nice family of moms here.
Don’t forget to click the little “Follow” button. And if you have a blog I don’t mind following yours as well. Let’s support each other in our journeys…

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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Lead or Follow...

2009-06-07T01:21:00.004-04:00

The other day my Facebook status read: How can you expect others to believe in you, when YOU don’t even believe in you? I received thumbs up from a few of my friends which wasn’t surprising. I say it wasn’t surprising because many knew I’d made a very valid comment.

We’ve often heard the phrase: Be a leader and not a follower. However after watching from afar I’ve come to realize many don’t know what it means to lead or just don’t know how to lead. They talk a good talk, but at the end of day they’ve just been trailing behind the next man.

I may not say much but believe me I’m always listening and watching as well. It simply amazes me when a person boasts to the rooftops about how they don’t do this or they’re not into that. But let the right opportunity present itself or the right people come their way, everything changes. So much for their word holding weight!! I guess what I’m getting to is this: Be yourself, don’t follow behind others. It’s OK to be different and have your own thoughts. Never compromise your views/feelings for another person. Believe in yourself and all you stand for.

As always come back again to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

A Woman’s Worth… What’s Yours???

2009-06-06T01:53:00.003-04:00

I speak from experience when I say a woman must know her worth. For if she doesn’t she’s in for a rough way to go. See, men are very smart and they pick up very quickly on women who have self esteem issues and other vulnerabilities. For some that's the ideal situation. Men are keen hunters and once they zero in on their prey, they’ll do whatever it takes to get what they want. Now, if that means take you out to nice restaurants, buy you things, or even profess their undying love for you, then so be it. That’s definitely what they’ll do.

So ladies, all I ask you to do is this… When he’s filling your head with all of those wonderful things that you’ve always wanted to hear, take a moment and think… Do his actions match his words? If not that’s your clue to let him go. Never settle. Remember, a man can only do to us what we as women allow them to do. That being said, don’t get upset with him for not respecting you. Get upset with YOU for allowing him not to. Don’t be a fool. Been there, done that, and don’t plan on ever going back.

Please come back again to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

An Epiphany of Sorts...

2009-06-05T13:35:00.006-04:00

So many things have changed for me in the last few months. Some good and some bad. However, I accept and learned from them all. The crazy thing is the “bad things” have pushed me to new heights so to speak. I know that’s how it’s supposed to be, but that’s not always the way it is. So, as the title of this post states… I did indeed have an epiphany!! I realized that there is so much more to me than what one sees on the surface.

Many times we only do what we need to do to “get by”. However when circumstances change, and things get rough we have to make a choice and do as the saying goes Go Hard or Go Home. (For those that don’t know, that means don’t half step, pussyfoot around, etc.) Well I chose to Go Hard. I have been pushing and pressing on trying my hand at new things. Mind you, all of the things I’ve been doing: article writing, working from home, becoming an IBO and some other things are all going well for the most part. None of those things are “get rich quick” schemes of course, but will take hard work. I know I have the drive and determination to make them grow, so that isn’t an issue.

The one thing I do need to learn to do is pace myself. I have so many ideas and so many things I want to do/accomplish that I have been pushing myself to the limits so to speak. That’s the drive and determination thing kicking in. I never even knew I had it. I literally sit at my computer all day long researching things like article marketing, small business promotion, publishing, copywriting, and affiliate marketing just to name a few. That’s my day, EVERYDAY. All it takes is for an interesting business related email to come through to one of my many email inboxes and I’m off stabbing away at my keyboard looking for more info. I know in the long run all of my hard work will pay off. However right now I’m going to work on taking one task at a time and building from there. Much easier said than done I’m sure, but I’ll keep you posted on my progress.

As always, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Happy Birthday Sweetie... I Love You...

2009-05-31T00:03:00.002-04:00

I love you more than words can explain…
Emotions run over, sometimes hard to contain…
Never in a million years thought, could I find true love…
Then you entered my life, as if sent from above…
You came at a time, when my life was in shambles…
Only to offer kind words, ready to take that gamble…
With me…
A Single Mom of three…
Self esteem low…
Spirit tattered and torn…
Uncertain of my future, feeling naked as the day I was born…
You helped me trust again, love again…
Truth be told…
All past experiences were false, imaginary…
Never once experienced love…
Until there was YOU…
From the very beginning, I knew you were true…
Much different than the rest…
Ready to stand the test…
Of time…
My pain yours, and your pain mine…
What did I do…?
To merit a Man as special as you…
Only God knows why you were sent my way…
I love you now, forever, and one day…
By, Rashon M. Graham

A Little Clarification…

2009-05-30T22:24:00.003-04:00

Someone recently asked me why I blog… The question stemmed from my stating that I didn’t really consider myself to be a writer so to speak. Now, for anyone else who may be wondering why I blog, here is a little clarification. I blog because it’s something which I enjoy doing. Blogging is a way for me to get my thoughts and feelings out into the universe uninterrupted. Granted, being that this is out on the internet, it’s free for all eyes to see. But you know what?? I’m good with that. You never know, someone may stumble upon this and be able to relate to some of the things I say. Then again, maybe not… See, I’m not here for any type of personal gratification or validation from anyone. I don’t need that. I’m happy in the skin I’m in. All I’m doing here is being me. That’s all I know how to do. Simply put, you can either love me or leave me alone. That decision is solely up to you…

As always, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

A Refreshing Outlook...

2009-05-28T23:35:00.006-04:00

As they say, there’s no time like the present… I don’t know about anyone else, but I am steadily growing and expanding my horizons so to speak. At the present I’m running my own business, I’m in the process of having some of my poetry published, and I’m also getting started in the arena of freelance writing. If that’s not expansion I don’t know what is. Despite all of things that had been wrecking havoc in my life over the past few months, I’m bouncing back. Each day I wake up energized and ready for whatever challenges the new day may bring.

From experience I have learned that attitude and outlook are everything. If one has a tainted outlook on themselves and life in general then guess what? Things don’t normally go too well for them and they are constantly complaining and moping around. However when you love yourself, accept your shortcomings and embrace all that life has to offer it’s a whole new world so to speak.

As always, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Update (New Journey)...

2009-05-26T02:26:00.006-04:00

OK, as you know I’m officially an IBO (Independent Business Owner). And boy, does it feel GOOD!!! I feel really good about myself and what I’m doing. Had this been a year ago today I’d never thought I’d be in this position. Sometimes you have to just “step out on faith” so to speak. If I can do this and succeed, so can anyone else out there. www.iboplus.com/stepstosuccess Don’t get me wrong, I was afraid. Afraid that this would be yet another thing that didn’t work out for me. However I had to press on and have some confidence in myself that I COULD do this. And guess what??? I AM!! I have the opportunity to talk to all types of different people on a daily basis. Some of those said people are looking to become IBOs like me, and others are interested in receiving discounts on their healthcare expenses.

I’m telling you, we may hear on TV and the Radio that many people are without health coverage… But it’s UNBELIEVABLE when you actually speak to so many without coverage personally on a daily basis. With the economy being in such shambles right now, people are hurting. I feel really good that I’m now in a position where I can help some of the people who do need a hand.

I know how it is to not be able to afford meds for myself and my children. I’m an asthmatic and the fast acting inhaler I use cost $44 a pop. That’s A LOT of money when you go through more than 2 in a month (yes, my asthma is that bad). Not to mention my other two inhalers I use for maintenance purposes along with other meds to control my asthma. All of that and that’s just for ME. Two of my three children are asthmatic as well. Plus my middle son and myself both wear glasses. It’s never ending, the money I spend. The good thing is that I get the discount plan my company offers for FREE since I’m an IBO with them… What a blessing!!!

If any of you out in blog land are in need of discount healthcare services please visit this website: www.mybenefitsplus.com/neededsavings . Don’t be shy; we all could use to save a few dollars…

As always, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

New Journey…

2009-05-19T12:59:00.007-04:00

As you all know the economy is in shambles right now and everyone is feeling it so to speak. Well at least I am and I’m not afraid to tell it… I have been trying and trying for MONTHS now to find a legit way to make money from home. I have signed up, searched, even failed at MANY programs. Don’t get me wrong, there are quite a few legit companies that offer work from home but it’s VERY HARD to get on with them. Let’s face it… If YOU had a good work from home opportunity with a legit on the books company would you leave it??? NO! Of course you wouldn’t. And I don’t blame you one bit.

Now on to MY New Journey… After all of my searching and burning the midnight Internet oil, I finally found a legit company to work with!!! WHEW!! Is all I have to say... I never thought I’d be lucky enough to find something. Get this… I get benefits, daily pay, 401K, training, websites (here is one of them: www.everyonebenefits.com/savingsforyou ), and a lot more. This company is the largest discounted fee-for-services program of its type in the country. It has been around for over 16 years and is getting stronger and stronger by the day. Now I’m sure you are reading this and saying “Who is she trying to fool?” But really, I’m not joking, pulling your leg, trying to get over, or whatever else you can think of. I’m happy and I guess you can say it just shows. I have been working for this company for a while now but really didn’t want to “toot my own horn” too soon. I wanted to make sure this was not going to be another one of my “failed attempts” to get ahead in this life. Because Lord knows I have had a tough way to go up until now. I am proud to say that the dust is finally clearing out and I can see a glimpse of a bright new promising future ahead.

The best thing I like about working with this company besides:

1. Unlimited time for my children
2. Working at Home
3. Being my own boss
4. Setting my own schedule
5. No commute
6. Not even having to get out of my pajamas (if I so choose not to)

is the fact that I get the HELP PEOPLE EVERY DAY!!! Now that’s just priceless.

I like this because I know how it is to “not have it”. It feels horrible to need medication for my children or myself and not be able to get it because it cost too much. Or even needing to go to the eye doctor but being unable to, and the list goes on and on.

Wow this is the longest post yet. I’ll let you all go for now, however I’ll keep you posted on this New Journey of mine. In the meantime, take a look at my website www.deliveringonthepromise.com/destinedsuccess . Please don't hesitate to contact me to let me know if I can be of some assistance to you OR if this sounds like something promising you'd like to pursue. I’d love the opportunity to help you and your family!!
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Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Sleepless...

2009-05-17T03:49:00.003-04:00

Look at the timestamp on this post… I should very well be asleep, but I can’t. So many things on my mind... An over abundance of stress has me sleepless right now. I have been tossing and turning for hours. Trying so desperately to clear the clutter out of my mind… each time to no avail. Replays of that which has upset me plays like a “movie” in my head. It’s hard to just give up on something when you care oh so very much, and it hurts deeply to even think there is a chance of it falling apart.

As always, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

Happy Mother's Day...

2009-05-10T23:39:00.001-04:00

Hello again, today is almost coming to a close and what a Wonderful Day it was… I didn’t really do much, just enjoyed my children and the rest of the family on this special day dedicated to us Mom’s. This morning my family and I all sat around the kitchen table drinking coffee and eating donuts. We shared memories of the past, laughed about the present, and looked ahead to a promising future.

Family is so very important and I cherish those special times when we are all able to get together and just enjoy one another. Today was really nice and as I sat there talking and listening, I looked around and realized there were four generations present in the room. My Nanny who’s the eldest at 78 (she’ll be 79 in Nov), then there was my Mom and my Auntie, then my cousins (which are my Auntie’s children) I, and of course my children. All I could do was SMILE. I truly hope all of the Moms out there enjoyed themselves today… We must always be thankful for the time we get to spend with the ones we love...

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Moms, please never forget:

“With due patience, comes progress” - Author:AmbitiousSingleMom

What do you do?

2009-05-02T17:11:00.001-04:00

Have you ever been in a situation which directly affects you and you feel like you have absolutely no control over it? Isn’t that just sooo frustrating??? You don’t want to come off as being pushy or demanding BUT you know you cannot afford to just sit back in the cut and twiddle your thumbs either.

What do you do?? Personally I have a very hard time with stuff like this. When it comes to my life and the lives of my boys I take things pretty seriously. But that’s only normal right? I’m sayin… How can I as a mother just sit back and be nonchalant about the future, my present situation, or even life in general? Life is serious business and I tend to treat it as such.

Ok don’t get me wrong, I do know many times there are also other people besides my boys and myself whom will be affected by certain issues/situations. However, to me that’s all the more reason to get the ball rolling and come to some conclusions/resolutions. Why put things off until later? Address the situation, examine the situation, then either move forward or dismiss the situation. But again that’s just my personal opinion….

That's it for now, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” – Author: AmbitiousSingleMom

An Uncertain Future?

2009-04-29T12:40:00.000-04:00

We all as human beings sometimes struggle with the fear and uncertainly of what lies ahead. Well I guess in all actuality I should not speak for everyone so let me rephrase that. I know that “I” often struggle with the fear and uncertainly of what is yet to come in my life. When it comes to being a Single Mom there is so much more to think about than just “me”. Every action, decision, and move I make in this game called life directly affects my 3 children in some way, shape or form.

I often sit back and think of my past and the many mistakes I've made over the years. I also think about how those past mistakes are affecting me now in this present day. To be completely honest with you, sometimes I feel hurt, ashamed, and full of regret. However I try my best not dwell on all that, as those things cannot be changed. All I can do is press forward having learned from those “life lessons”. Being older now I tread through the waters of life with extreme caution. Some may say I put too much thought into things or say I kind of go overboard. But how can that be? I have 3 sets of eyes counting on me for EVERYTHING, and I believe owe it to my children to examine and think things through to the very last detail if need be. You see... My past I cannot change but my destiny I now hold in the palm of my hands...

Once again that's it for now, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” – Author: AmbitiousSingleMom

The 1st of Many...

2009-04-26T03:27:00.005-04:00

Hello Moms…

Well, first off let me say Thank You for taking the time to visit my small piece of the World Wide Web. I wouldn't call myself a "seasoned" writer or anything fancy like that. I'm just your average Single Mom trying to make it in this world we call home just like everyone else. I'm truly hoping by posting to this blog I can be of some assistance to other Single Moms out there. We all know being a Single Mom isn't easy at all... But when we see the sincere and genuine smiles of those little faces which reflect our own, all the hard work that goes into being a Single Mom is WELL WORTH IT!!!

Right now I know this looks a bit plain and dull; I ask you to please be patient with me as I am still learning. Blogging is very new to me; however I’m very excited to embark on this new Journey with you by my side. I plan to write about many different topics on here. A few topics which have come to mind thus far have been things like: dealing with sibling rivalry, bills, stress, working from home, and relationships just to name a few... So stay tuned for further updates and posts.

Well that’s it for now, please come back again soon to explore the Journeys of a Single Mom…

Moms, please never forget:
“With due patience, comes progress” – Author: AmbitiousSingleMom